My self

"My self" it is how other people recognize us. As a rule this point of view is the most right one. Meaning that this point of view is closer to the real one than the point of view we have to out selves. Say, you meet a person and communicate with him or her. During the communication people receive certain impression and that impression they have received conditions their further attitude towards us. It is a rare occasion when this attitude is changed with a lapse of time.

Though this attitude is close to the real state of things, it may also be false. It may also be better than the real one and may also be worse than the real one. And it is important for us to count on this point of view as it is a perfect opportunity to change something in our character for better. But in most cases people get offended with other people's point of view and prefer to cut communication over than to recognize their drawbacks.

People say "Beware of the first impression as it is the true one" and this statement is right. The first impression people have about someone is usually the right one. That is the impression deprived of any influence. People get acquainted and they have no feelings about each other. The feelings appear during the conversation and those feelings influence their attitude towards one.

The "my self"-impression may not also be recognized as the very truth as it is the impression people have. This impression is conditioned by foundations people have, so it may not be recognized as a fair truth. Say, one believes that it is okay for person to be unsociable and there is nothing bad in it. But another person may recognize it as arrogance and so the impression about one will be the bad one.